Everyone’s divorce experience is different. Some people are able to end things amicably and peacefully. Others have to go through contentious court battles. Some people will even fight over custody arrangements, property, or other assets.
Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. You’ve probably already seen decorations in the stores—along with heart-shaped boxes of chocolates, bouquets of roses, and stuffed animals.
Maybe, at one time, you relished in the holiday with your spouse. It was a wonderful experience. You had a love affair with your spouse early on in your marriage when the sparks were still strong and nothing could tear you apart. But now, things have changed.
So, you made it through the holiday season, but that might not be saying much. Simply “making it through” the holidays isn’t where anyone wants to be, especially when it comes to describing your marriage.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills group is for women in the process of divorce. In this weekly group, participants learn to manage emotions and stress associated with divorce, without making it worse.
While divorce is never easy, some situations are harder than others. Some divorces can end amicably. Others hold a lot of contention and high-conflict. When there are children involved, these high-conflict situations can be even more sensitive.
Going through a divorce is never an easy process. Even if things ended amicably, it’s a major life change. On top of that, it’s a loss. That’s why so many people end up grieving after a divorce.
All of us gets angry from time to time. It’s a normal human emotion that can be triggered by a variety of things. Of course, everyone experiences anger differently and everyone expresses it differently. But it’s how you interact with others when you’re angry that makes a difference. Anger is okay, but taking it out on other people is not. Communication doesn’t stop just because you’re feeling angry. So, you have to know how to do it effectively.
When you go through a divorce, you go through a loss. It can be a loss that feels just as heavy and overwhelming as a death—perhaps even worse. While going through a divorce can make you feel tired, stressed, sad, or even angry, it can also put you in a fog-like state.
Going through a divorce means experiencing a loss. It’s a grieving process, and it’s important to accept the fact that your life will be different. Yes, recovery is possible! And if you make it a priority, you can find freedom in your new way of living.
Fall 2019 DBT Skills Group for Divorcing Women